and he began having dementia, and i don't want to make light of it, i had a joke he loved and i could tell it over and over again, and he would still laugh at it. (laughter) >> i wish i had a joke. >> my dad and i started doing things together. normal things, hair cut, taking him to the doctor. and took him to see a movie called sling blade and my dad wanted to be next to a restroom and i put him next to a restroom, so restless during the movie and i thought it was because it was the restroom. he said larry let's leave, the man in sling blade reminded him of the man who abused him when he was a little boy and one of the first times i saw my father cry. >> mike: during the holidays, people have deep hurts. and give advice for families estranged from a mother, father, husband or wife or son or daughter. what do they do to start the relationship over. >> i'm hoping dear father, dear son will give two lessons, fishes is 70% of black kids today are born out of wed locks, 50% of hispanic kids and 20% of white kids. and what do you do when you have no male role model in the house. if anybody